The Endless Sibling Rivalry: India and Pakistan

Following the recent Mumbai bomb blasts I have witnessed the rekindling of a lot of the old anti-Pakistan sentiment in Indians and vice versa in Pakistanis. I must admit that the emotional shock from seeing the attacks live on tv of a city I am so fond of brought similar feelings of anger and hate in myself. However after having had the benefit of time to cool down and think through things I have come to realize that by raising these negative sentiments I am only helping the terrorists achieve their objective and granting them success on their operation. It is only too clear now that India's development and future is tied to that of Pakistan... the quicker we realize this the better it will be for everyone... where has 60 years of playing the blame game got us? they blame us.. we blame them.. and the circle continues.. being the bigger, more stable and developed country it is our moral responsibility and in our own benefit to help establish stable democracy in pakistan and help them fight the militants on the north west frontier.. we should be sending our representatives there and work up a dialogue and joint action.. instead of sending a list of 20 names send a convoy to negotiate and develop a mutual extradition treaty.. if Pakistan wants evidence of miltiant involvement from Pakistan then share it with them.. or even better make the evidence public so that they are held accountable.. unfortunately the militarization of the afghani and other tribal rebels in the 70s by america has left this mess.. blaming each other is going to achieve nothing.. it has only been used as a political tool to shed the accountability where it truly belongs.. india and pakistan are like two siblings caught up in a never ending childhood where each one wants to outdo the other.. does the older one have the maturity and competency to go beyond the petty rivalry and foster an environment for mutual growth and development? so far it has miserably failed.